…because it was a personal decision, that’s why!
A friend and I were discussing how haphazardly people at times cross the road. It was really idle chat as we made our way across town. But she mentioned something that I thought was insightful: crossing the road is a personal decision.
It truly is. At that moment when you decide to cross , you’re physically and mentally ready for it. You’ve balanced out your weight and acceleration and you know that should anything unexpected happen, you’ll be set to take it on. Therefore that person who grabs you and says. “twende!” before you can prepare yourself does you a great disservice! You can only go when you have made that personal decision.
I extrapolated this statement to put meaning to things we do in life. No one should compel you to do anything you are not ready for no matter how much they think you look ready. So should you encounter such “twende” people, may be you can do what I normally do:
- Ignore them: Silence works every time! But remember to be gracious and respectful.
- Tell THEM to go! Encourage them to take that route that they so desperately want to take and wish them well!
- Shake them off! Sometimes you cannot really ignore them or talk to them so try and ‘lose’ them in the crowd! Unless you wear really heavy scents, they will not be able to track you! 🙂
So whether it concerns doing that Masters degree, quitting your job to start that business or even embark on that seemingly fairy-tale – like relationship, such major decisions almost always need you to be the sole initiator and executor.
p/s Remember to look right, left and then right again!