This has to be one of the best things I have read all week! I hope some of the thoughts by the writer resonate with you as they did with me and teach you a thing or two about being the best you can possibly be at all times whether you are in your 20s or not.
…because it was a personal decision, that’s why!
A friend and I were discussing how haphazardly people at times cross the road. It was really idle chat as we made our way across town. But she mentioned something that I thought was insightful: crossing the road is a personal decision.
It truly is. At that moment when you decide to cross , you’re physically and mentally ready for it. You’ve balanced out your weight and acceleration and you know that should anything unexpected happen, you’ll be set to take it on. Therefore that person who grabs you and says. “twende!” before you can prepare yourself does you a great disservice! You can only go when you have made that personal decision.
I extrapolated this statement to put meaning to things we do in life. No one should compel you to do anything you are not ready for no matter how much they think you look ready. So should you encounter such “twende” people, may be you can do what I normally do:
- Ignore them: Silence works every time! But remember to be gracious and respectful.
- Tell THEM to go! Encourage them to take that route that they so desperately want to take and wish them well!
- Shake them off! Sometimes you cannot really ignore them or talk to them so try and ‘lose’ them in the crowd! Unless you wear really heavy scents, they will not be able to track you! 🙂
So whether it concerns doing that Masters degree, quitting your job to start that business or even embark on that seemingly fairy-tale – like relationship, such major decisions almost always need you to be the sole initiator and executor.
p/s Remember to look right, left and then right again!
…and I am my words.
“I searched all around the world, and I found myself” – Beyonce Knowles.
I didn’t have to search far. I was here all along. All I had to do was sit still and find. I found myself and I feel strong. Who ever I meet, talk to and learn form affirms it. We are what we search for. I heard the line for the first time recently. It hit home in a warm sort of way. When I heard it I sat back and smiled. How brilliant. How true.
I have been searching for order. Action: I walked into the nearest bookshop and bought a comprehensive diary. I jot down what I have to do for the day every morning at 5.30am. Result: Although I don’t hit the mark all the time at least I get to sit down at the end of my day and figure out why.
I have been searching for success: Action: I set out to make friends that define the word. Result: I have a network that I constantly learn from and slowly but surely, my weaknesses are becoming strengths.
I have been searching for love: Action: Set high personal standards that will not be compromised no matter what. Result: I am single but secure 🙂
We are our words.
Are you home?
I have friends and acquaintance approaching me everyday asking for input on various projects and advice on various dilemmas and my biggest challenge is turning them down. So I rarely do and I end up with a lot on my fragile plate and with just a tiny spoon (a metaphor for time) to scoop the tasty tasks with.
As a solution, I have developed a simple and honest way to take a pass at some of the requests. Below is a typical scenario.
I have just met my friend Taylor for coffee and he/she has just told me about this brilliant business idea he/she has. Then he/she drops the dreaded request!
Taylor: Please help me draft the business plan! You are so good at these things!
Me: Your idea is brilliant Taylor. Thank you for the compliment. All I do is my best. I would love to get involved as you would wish but unfortunately, I have committed myself to a host of other projects and I cannot apply myself as effectively as I would at this time. I am confident that you will maneuver without me and create an outstanding business plan for this one-of-a-kind venture!
Taylor: Ok. I wish you could write it up for me but since you are committed elsewhere, I understand. Can I then send the finished draft and get your feedback?
Me: Of course you can.
Note that I have not not cut off my dear fictitious friend completely. I have just excused myself from the heavier task using honesty, respect and grace.
What do you think of my technique? Do you have one to that works? Do share them with me.
“What are the ingredients of expertise? Intelligent commitment over time.” – Wale Akinyemi. Chief Executive Officer of Powertalks Corporate and personal development consultants.
I discovered these ingredients in a group of individuals who are the contributors and editors of the Equity African Leadership Program (EALP) Journals. This website and soon to be published hardcover journal, is the station for all things spectacular. You only need to visit the site and sample the articles to get blown away by the literary prowess of these young and creative minds.
As I sat through the inaugural public reading session of the journals at Equity Center (the Equity Bank head office), Nairobi on Friday 22nd June, 2012, I was taken on a magical journey filled with intrigue, sadness, excitement and whole other jumble of emotions that were more than clearly colored by the words that were used by the writers. Getting to hear the writers’ own voices bring alive the assortment of sensations left me feeling a little light headed actually. It was like I had been teleported into another realm that only I and the narrator could see and feel. So deep and vivid was the teleportation that by the time the story ended and I was forced to raise my bowed head and open my lazily shut eyes, an automatic raising of my hands in applause was the only thing left to do!
Kenya is gifted. Expert writers are in our midst. The EALP Journals have proven that. All that is left is to continue stirring the pot that contains this delicious simmering broth of African literature; stirring it in the gentle and deliberate motion of intelligent commitment whilst carefully adding healthy and well measured portions of time.
Regardless of how old you are, you need a mentor. Mentors are not godfathers or people you use to get favors. They are people to simply look up to and who are meant to add perspective in your life and work. They should best double up as friends for full value. But just how do you get one? Here is how I have been able to get myself valuable mentors who have continued to play vital roles in my life:
- Seek family: I believe no one knows you better or loves you more than your family. So make the most of their experiences and engage them as you try to make your own way in life.
- Use social media groups: Get mentors through Linkedin by simply starting genuine and relevant conversations in groups. Be sure to flaunt your strengths in a subtle way for full effect.
- Ask friends: Fear not of asking your friends whom they can directly connect you to for guidance and networking.
- Offer to mentor: Reach out to someone you feel may be in need of your time and advice. As you remain present in this person’s life, you will discover a lot about yourself and learn from them as well.
What else can be a way to get a mentor in your life? Do share them here with us.
“Progress must be planned for, and excellent progress must be meticulously planned” – Prof. Munkumba; trainer, consultant and lecturer in Management and Finance with Eastern and Southern African Management Institute (ESAMI).
Prof Munkumba narrowed in on the purpose of planning as one based on progress. It is all in the conviction of that which you stand for. A purposeful life is one which is lead not only with passion but with poverty of all things tangible. Once you put vanity aside, that haze that bars you from seeing beyond your temporary needs gets lifted and a whole new perspective of your life is developed.
I came up with this phrase ‘Future-Changers’ a while ago as I was sharing the link to one of my blog posts with various University of Nairobi class groups on Facebook. I needed an impactive way to address the young individuals that would get them thinking holistically of who they really are: which is the future of Kenya and the world.
Kenya is in our hands. We are responsible for what will happen tomorrow; good or bad. Our capabilities are the ones that are going to lift our country up and see it supersede the Vision 2030 agenda and all the other goals and targets that we have so set for ourselves. These capabilities should be backed by executable plans that are meant to bring forth lasting solutions.
Take one Samson Aluda. This future changer is a 23 year old university student who runs a secondary school in Kibera and he was recently interviewed by Caroline Mutoko on the Kiss FM morning show. He has very little and relies on the kindness and generosity of people to keep the facility open. With one day at a time, Samson is changing the futures of all the teens in the slum as well as his own. His plan is based on the academic progression of the children in Kibera. Given that the school is open and continues to meet the targets he has set for it, I’d say his progress is excellent, struggles notwithstanding!
It doesn’t matter how old you are or what little you think you have. If you can spare nothing else, you can spare your time and energy. Walk out of that door and change your future, Future-Changer! Meticulous plan in hand!
Should you wish to contact Samson for support or donations to the school, kindly email me at email@example.com